Bonus: Thoughts before I leave you; my final Chapter
WISH I’D NEVER LIVED TO SEE
GLAD I LIVED TO SEE
WHAT I’M MOST THANKFUL FOR
PEOPLE WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT
I CAN’T COMPREHEND
WHAT I’VE LEARNED
Never thought I was mature early in life (or even now) so, I’ll begin my observations in 1961 when I was 14, and realized you could turn the number upside down and it was still 1961. It was also the year that I seriously began longing for a paying job. I’m not making this list to be a dissimulative, I'm serious. (All listings in random order)
WISH I’D NEVER LIVED TO SEE:
Failure of Bay of Pigs
Kent State killings
Invention of Smiley Face
Closing of Project Blue Book
Death of Elvis
The story of Kathleen Willey’s cat
COVID-19 (Had to think long & hard to come up with that one).
GLAD I LIVED TO SEE-EXPERIENCE:
Civil Rights Legislation, respect and treatment of women, the disabled and, our efforts to understand people of all ethnicities.
U.S. first on Moon
Internet, WWW, HDTV, Fox News
Spell check & word processors
Cell phones & digital cameras
Microwaves, ATM, On-line shopping
Improvement in taste of frozen foods, especially pizza.
Google Maps & GPS
MOST THANKFUL FOR:
Food & Shelter
Love & Relationships, Women who were in my life.
The absence of excruciating pain
Living in freedom in the USA
Achieving a goal and the satisfaction that comes with it.
Continuing to learn
Children playing (at a distance, of course)
A good nap
Working actually, (well some)
Love from my pets & my satisfaction of doing things with them, they most enjoy (& me trying to be the person they think I am).
My wife, my brother, my friends.
My wife’s hummingbird feeding addiction & her art, like the drawing of flowers.
Reading & Writing
Did I mention citizenship & living in the USA?
A good fire in the stove with wood I gathered and split.
Paying off debt
Looking through my tools & admiring other stuff I’ve collected.
Driving my sports cars-fast, in appropriate confines, of course.
Keeping the faith
My sense of humor, my positive outlook, my retirement income.
Wish I’d never lived to know of, or people we could live without:
“Pundits,” especially on TV, who don’t know what the hell they are talking about.
People with their own agenda who have convinced millions — who don’t bother to look for themselves — an inaccurate and dishonest interpretation of the constitutional requirement for separation of church and state.
Larry King on TV
Don Lemon on TV
Joy Behar on TV
Chuck Schumer in politics.
Tie a Yellow Ribbon (although from a moving and sincere story; after hearing about 9,008 times, it practically gags me just thinking about it).
Trust Fund Liberals who don’t have to work, just make life miserable for those who do.
I CAN’T COMPREHEND:
The Nobel Peace Prize to: B.O. & A.G.
An Academy Award for: A.G.
Women & Men who stay in abusive relationships.
Churches destroyed by acts of God
Terrible things happening to good people.
How awful live must be for the scores who are affected by COVID-19, especially for those who were already struggling.
People who prey on children.
Why Karma isn’t always 100%.
People (like young U.S. citizens) who proudly wear Che Guevara T-shirts, apparently unaware of whom he really was.
Why so-called Progressives seem to believe that Caucasians must be classified Bad — and other Races Good — if we are to redress past injustices.
Why pets lives are so short and not forever.
How I finished a book when I can hardly spell or type. Approximately 81 percent of Americans think they should write a book; 2 percent have completed a manuscript.
A World without Love
WHAT I’VE LEARNED: (I don’t claim all were my original ideas)
Ninety percent of the things we worry about never happen.
That said, If I don’t have anything to worry about at any given time, I’ll think of something.
There is no safety in denial.
The harder you work, the luckier you are (Attributed to Abe Lincoln).
I can’t complain, but sometimes I still do.
There is no failure except in no longer trying
You can’t build a reputation on things you’re going to do.
You can be a Victim or You can be Successful — You Can’t be Both, However.
Equal opportunity doesn’t mean equal results.
Self-pity costs nothing, and it is worth just as much.
A good way to fail is to try to please everyone.
If at first you don’t succeed, you’re about average.
Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. Winston Churchill
Only a Mediocre person is always at his best.
There may be a time to slow down or even quit, but never give up.
Sorrow is the great equalizer.
If you’re not complaining, you might be too sick to, or you’re not sick enough.
Wish I didn’t know now what I didn’t know then.
Nothing is more conductive to peace of mind than not having any opinions at all. Lichtenberg (1742-1799)
If liberty means anything at all, it means the right to tell people what they do not want to hear. George Orwell.
Life is extinct on other planets because their scientists were more advanced than ours.
A person convinced against their will is a person not convinced.
It’s easier to be tolerant of others, when not worried about your next rent or mortgage payment.
The trouble with loving is that pets don’t last long enough and people last too long.
Children are a lot like cats, in that you need to reach out to them when they’re ready.
Parenting is by far the hardest job.
Everything is relative.
A happy medium is the secret in balancing family & career.
Serious depression is the worst malady.
Screw up a little, you’re a jerk, screw up a lot, you’re a victim.
Where do we draw the line?
Women, From a Partner Want: You to make a great living but not be away too much, well known, but not too. Good-looking, but not too. Your love and affection when they feel the need in just the right dose, naturally.
We’re too damn soft, we’re too damn sensitive.
A person is the sum of his/her experiences.
If not for people, this world wouldn’t be a bad place
Some people are alive, simply because it’s illegal to kill them.
Life isn’t fair nor will it ever be, and it’s full of little injustices.
Living Well is the best Revenge.
I don’t want much; I just want more & I have an overspending problem.
Meaning of life; if you have to ask you don’t need to know (OK, OK, it has something to do with love).
But you don’t have to know the Meaning of Life to Enjoy it Fully.
Some people, no matter their profession, are just inept jerks.
Today, nothing is sacred.
Beliefs you thought to be mainstream, 30 years ago, probably wouldn’t be welcomed in mixed company and people of different political persuasions.
If you’re a conservative (even a compassionate one, like me) you might be careful where you speak, or even if you should speak.
Professional Soldiers, Sailors, Marines, guarding the gates of freedom average salary, $38,000 annually; Professional athletes in top four sports average salary, $3.1 million.
Maslow had a good theory.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
He who Laughs, Lasts.
Nobody ever committed suicide while reading a good book, but many have while trying to write one. Robert Byrne
I infer, You imply.
Something to do and someone to love and something to hope for. (Rita Mae Brown)
Forgiveness is an important cleanser of the soul.
I believe you Clarence (Supreme Court Justice).
A top biochemist working on a life-saving vaccine can make up to $100k a year: Top professional athletes can and do make over $32 million in that same time.
A handicapped diplomat can park anywhere she pleases.
You haven’t lived until you’ve almost died (Special Forces maxim).
Mary Tyler Moore watched Fox News.
She/He who dies with the most toys was probably overextended.
Never trust someone based solely on the knowledge of the back of their hands.
When I’m down, I feel bad for feeling bad, and feeling bad just makes me feel worse.
To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering.
We make time for things we really want to do.
You always remember what you’d like most to forget.
If we don’t do something they are going to do nothing.
If you don’t live it, you don’t really believe it.
Not for systemic racism, a relatively unknown, first term senator from Illinois might have gone far in life.
You Never Know.
That I can’t remember all I’ve learned that is worthy of imparting.
Had I been born with half a brain, natural talent and not befallen with a debilitating and incurable malady at age 27, I might have amounted to something.
In many of the so-called aspects of life, I consider myself to be less than average; in a few though, I’m pretty damn lucky.
If I could, I really would.
Statistics provide overwhelming evidence that you are going to die.
It is oft said, the two most important days in your life is the day you were born and the day you find out why (Mark Twain). I can’t remember the first, and I’m still working on the latter.
I’ve had the occasion to interact with, be around, and know of all kinds of people all over the world and I can say with certitude that some are evil, incorrigible and malevolent as to be unfit for habitation in a free society. (You need not be kind to these people.) Fortunately, these wicked cretins are in the minority. Overwhelmingly, people are decent law-abiding altruistic members of the race we commonly refer to as human. So, I leave you with this:
Be Kind, Everyone has a Cross to Bear.
THANK YOU, THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
Famous last words: “I’m going to the bathroom to read.”
That’s Alright (Mama)
If my story kindled a Smile, a Laugh, or most importantly inspired you to Think, neither of us wasted time, not me writing, not you reading.
Swan’s-Song Publishing 2020, donaldswan@MSN.Com